I've read a lot of threads that are basically this over the years, I'd imagine others who've been on multiple forums for long enough are in the same boat. What always happens is exactly what's happened here and we learn that actually despite the initial supposition it turns out there are a LOT of different niche little ways that people choose to enjoy an already super niche thing, which is the beauty of the world we live in at the moment when you look at it in the context of all of history.
Still productive to keep having the discussion though given the way a lot of the player base churns through the hobby. Rationalising your (speaking generally) position through this sort of talking and being exposed to all the ways of thinking and points of view you've never considered previously is important. Helps decrease general instances of douchebaggery over people doing things a different way to the way people think they 'should' be done. Snobs, reverse-snobs, not-milsim-enough, not-speedsoft-enough etc etc.
The above seems to have little to do with with actual financial position. I know wealthy people who have basic guns & gear and people who've taken out loans in order to sink £2K into a RIF.
And the former will probably always stay wealthy and the latter always stay poor. Not super relevant but I have to say it; getting in to any debt over airsoft is stupidly bonkers.
I guess the topic of discussion is: While you're actually skirmishing, do you care about how your guns look etc? If not, does that also make you wonder why you've gone for the £1500 NGRS etc?. As an additional discussion, are there any airsoft habits you want to break? I spend hours browsing retail websites and enjoy the buzz of a new arrival but the shine soon wears off, so I've obviously got an issue to address.
Realising you have a problem is the first step. I heard a very intelligent person r.e. this topic recently say something along the lines of 'nobody's addicted to anything (alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling, social media), everyone's just addicted to serotonin', which I think is good info to know when trying to break any bad habit you deem necessary to break in your life. Doesn't fix the problem but more understanding is always better.
Personally I have a pretty deep-running passion for financial management as essentially a hobby and that in itself dictates basically everything I do and that includes airsoft, which is why I hugely prioritise quality and more importantly reliability along with protecting and subsequently maintaining what I do have. I'd recommend anyone putting just the tiniest bit of money in the stock market, or even just signing up for eToro (free) and playing the simulator with fake money to start - long as you take it seriously. Once you realise the possibilities and start learning more and following the right people online it has a good potential to affect the way you do everything else in life, even health and fitness.